Do you get discouraged at times? How do you deal with this?
By now you’ve heard the phrases “Think Positive” Many personal development teachers remind us “You get what you concentrate on”.
These are time honoured principles which have guided men and women throughout the ages to extraordinary achievements. Seems simple enough doesn’t it? Just focus on what you want! Hey, what could be easier than that? Well sometimes the simplest things aren’t so simple but they can teach us a lot in life!
I’ve personally found that putting this into practice, in real "day to day life" brings lots of learning! However, ONE thing that has puzzled me for a while is this …
What if you really don’t BELIEVE your positive thoughts??
I’ve often found myself making positive affirmations, or creating vivid mental pictures, but not really believing that they would ever happen!
One part of me says “think positive Clara” The other part says, “naaah, I don’t believe it!” Has this every happened to you? What do you do with that?
“I can do this” I said to myself. “I can do anything I set my mind to”. I got the positive thinking juices flowing. I reminded myself of all the other things I’ve done that I didn’t think were possible.
“Remember getting through graduate school? Remember getting your first cheque from your business? Remember surviving three business failures before finding the right one?” Surely putting together a computer desk would be much, MUCH easier!
A loud and intimidating chorus of thoughts rose up, like a huge buzzing swarm of bees, flying everywhere and making lots of noise!
“Clara, this will NEVER work”
“You aren’t smart enough to figure this out”
“You’re stupid to be trying this”
“Don’t even bother to start, just give up!”
Hey, I wasn’t expecting that! I could almost see them swarming around my head! OK well that wasn’t going to stop me, so I continued on.
“I told you, this will NEVER work!”
“You’ll never figure this out, why bother?”
“Don’t waste your time with this Clara, just give up!”
A wave of despair may start to wash over you Maybe this is going to be a real hassle. You start to feel mentally tired. “OK, I need to think positive” you think. You straighten your spine, try to whip yourself into shape. “I CAN do this; I CAN do anything!”, you insist.
But, the “buzzing bees” only escalate to a near fever pitch! They were all around you now, so thick and loud you can hardly see. It is so distracting!
“You’re inadequate”
“You’re deficient”
We all have our vulnerable spots and maybe in that process, your vulnerable spot might just get prodded, and you go “Ouch! Maybe they’re right. Maybe I’m just not cut out for this”. The buzzing bees would agree wholeheartedly of course!
“Give up Clara, you CAN’T do it!!!!!!!!”
How do you deal with that?
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